Couples Therapy Washington DC
Lindsey Hoskins & Associates offers our clients couples therapy Washington DC community members find to be very effective. Our caring staff and specially trained counselors can provide therapy to help you and your partner or spouse work on issues that are causing problems in your relationship. Call us to make an appointment or to find out more about couples therapy in Washington DC and how it may work for you. Here are six common relationship issues that can be addressed in couples therapy:
- One or both partners want the other to change. If either person is unwilling to make changes in behavior but wants the other partner to make changes, this can cause disharmony. Behaviors and perception, whether it has to do with financial issues, substance abuse, or other issues, must be dealt with by both spouses. Otherwise, the issue may not be resolved and, instead, resentment may build which can lead to significant anger and arguments.
- One or both partners do not take responsibility for their behavior. Couples therapy Washington DC spouses and partners engage in cannot be fully effective if one or both refuses to acknowledge their role. Instead, they may place all of the blame on the other person which can prevent a healthy resolution of the problem.
- Either or both spouses are keeping significant secrets from their loved one. Though it’s not necessary to tell your partner every little thing, some things need to be shared in order to maintain a healthy relationship. Examples include extramarital affairs, gambling or substance addiction, or other behaviors that create emotional and other barriers in the relationship. One of the strengths of couples therapy Washington DC residents seek from Lindsey Hoskins & Associates is that in a safe environment it can be easier to divulge those secrets.
- Agreed upon changes in the relationship are not happening, and as a result, destructive behaviors are continuing. It’s often not enough to identify a problem in the relationship– changes are usually required in order to address or resolve that problem. Habits can be hard to break which requires patience from both partners. Frustration can set in if the perception is that change is not happening, or that it’s not happening fast enough. One approach taken in couples therapy Washington DC locals engage in is to improve communication methods. For instance, if an argument is escalating, it may be necessary to voice the concern that it’s time to take a break or to step back from the emotions. Our therapists can work with you and your partner to improve methods of communication. Safe guidelines that protect and respect the other person’s feelings can also be worked out in therapy.
How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce
Many married couples who are having difficulties turn to couples therapy in Washington DC in order to try to save their relationship. For many couples, these sessions help them work through their issues and find happiness with each other again. However, there are couples who realize after counseling that ending their marriage is the healthiest choice for their family.
If you have decided that divorcing your spouse is the right move for your future, you may be wondering how to tell them. Although it may be the most difficult conversation you ever have, telling your spouse how you feel is essential. Here are some useful tips for telling your spouse you want a divorce.
Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and think about how you would react if they told you they wanted a divorce. Be sure to plan where and how you will tell your spouse rather than delivering the bad news when you are arguing about something else.
Have the Conversation in Person
Although it is easier to send an email or text message to your spouse, you should tell them you want a divorce in person. Regardless of whether you have been married for decades or just a few short years, initiating a divorce via email or text is cowardly. This may be something you can discuss during your Washington DC couples therapy.
Rather than beating around the bush, be direct with your spouse. By sugarcoating the situation or talking about another topic at first, you will not be making the news less painful. Let them know you do not see your marriage working out even after couples therapy in Washington DC and would like a divorce.
If you believe your spouse may become physically violent once you break the news, be sure to have the conversation at a coffee shop or another public place. Be sure to tell a trustworthy friend or family member what you will be doing and where you will be. If you have been working with a therapist, then consider telling your spouse during your couples therapy session.
Tell your spouse you are ready divorce at the right time. It is a good idea to have this conversation during the evening or on a weekend when you and your spouse are not busy with work and other duties. This way, your spouse will have time to process the news.
Keep Your Children Out of It
When you are bringing up a divorce to your spouse for the first time, your children should not be around. If you need to hire a babysitter or ask a relative to watch your children, do so. Even if your divorce has to do with your children, they do not need to be part of the conversation.
Contact an Experienced Family Therapist
While telling your spouse that you want a divorce is incredibly difficult, it is a conversation that cannot be avoided. Divorce will bring about many changes for you, your spouse, and your children. Attending couples therapy Washington DC families recommend like the ones at Lindsey Hoskins & Associates can help process through all of these changes and help your family heal. Call our office today to find out how we can help.
Explore the Solutions That Washington DC Couples Therapy Offers
If you are experiencing challenges in your relationship and would like to work on them, a trained clinician from our team may be able to help. Call us at Lindsey Hoskins & Associates to find out more about couples therapy Washington DC offers.