Couples Counseling Genetics
When a relationship is in trouble and you wish to explore therapy, you and your partner will want to find the best couples counselor for your needs. Otherwise, if you are not willing to find a therapist, you may decide to end a relationship that is actually worth saving. At Lindsey Hoskins & Associates, we have several therapists on staff, each of whom offers a unique perspective and set of tools for helping couples work through challenges in their relationship.
Tips for Finding the Best Couples Counseling
When it comes to the “best” of anything, that’s a subjective term, even when it comes to finding a couples counseling. In fact, someone who might be the best counselor for you may not be the best for your partner or vice versa. However, to find one who is the best possible fit for both of you, consider the following when choosing a couples counselor:
- Ask if they have experience helping clients with the specific issues, such as genetics, you and your partner would like to address.
- Ask how they help clients who are dealing with the challenges you and your partner are facing.
- Ask if you can switch therapists if the one you choose turns out to not be a good fit.
- Ask if they offer one-on-one sessions as well as couples sessions if at some point you wish to have that instead, or in conjunction with couples therapy.
- Ask if they offer multiple session therapy packages or if they only charge for each appointment at no discount.
- Ask what they charge per session as well as for other therapy options such as multiple sessions.
- Ask about their cancellation and rescheduling policy.
- Ask where they are located and options for parking or proximity to local bus stops and routes.
Commitment to Couples Counseling
When it comes to couples counseling, even the best couples counselor will not be effective if you and your partner are not willing to invest yourselves in the effort. Depending on the issues you wish to focus on, very likely both of you will have to be open to taking responsibility for your actions and be open to changing your behavior. During your first session with your therapist, they may be able to give you an idea as to how many sessions you may need, but the assumption is that you and your partner will be engaged in the therapy.
It may also be helpful for the process if you as well as your partner simultaneously engage in individual therapy. This can be discussed at any time during your couples counseling sessions.
Unhealthy Patterns That May Lead to Divorce
With nearly half of marriages ending in divorce, a successful marriage may be harder than you think. It it often even harder when dealing with a genetics issue. Nobody goes into marriage expecting to be included in that statistic. At Lindsey Hoskins & Associates, we understand that although divorce is common, it is not inevitable. By adapting and changing the way you and your partner communicate with one another, your relationship can have an improved chance of success.
Unhealthy Relationship Patterns That Can Lead to Divorce
Here are some specific unhealthy relationship dynamics that may need to be overcome or avoided for a marriage to beat the divorce statistic. Remember, that couples counseling dealing with issues about genetics can help.
Most humans don’t seek out and revel in conflict, yet it’s an unavoidable part of all relationships. Many believe that conflict is the source of relationship problems. But that’s a common misconception. Plus, it’s a dangerous perspective because it leads partners to avoid conflict.
In truth, it’s the way we approach—or don’t approach—the conflict that’s typically the real problem. Stonewalling, a refusal to communicate or cooperate, often occurs when partners know that an argument is looming, so they may do everything they can to avoid it. This can mean abandoning the conversation and refusing to revisit it, or just carrying on like nothing is wrong.
Unfortunately, though, when we avoid conflict, we often internalize them and hold resentments. As problems are ignored or acted upon in passive-aggressive ways, the relationship starts to become superficial. Consequently, issues that were once small, and possibly even trivial, eventually become monumental challenges as stonewalling continues. As a genetics couples counseling therapist can explain, stonewalling is a common issue, but one that can be overcome.
The internalized views partners have for one another need to be healthy and positive. For example, feelings of contempt can be extremely damaging to a relationship. Contempt surpasses feelings of anger or frustration towards a partner.
Contempt involves a spouse thinking and behaving as if they are better than their partner. That feeling of superiority means they may respect their significant other less and treat them as if they aren’t equal. Partners don’t have to agree on everything, but they do need to respect each other enough to take their needs and opinions into account. Genetics couples counseling can help.
Partners typically find it unpleasant to be criticized, accused, or blamed by the person they love most. Criticism is even harder to bear when the critique is misconstrued as or turns into pointing out of character flaws. Generalizing one small incident and turning it into a character flaw can be an unhealthy relationship dynamic.
So, couples may be best served by taking a step back and trying to separate the situation from the person. When engaging with their partner, couples should try to avoid derogatory statements that include “always” and “never.”
How to Save Your Marriage with Genetics Couples Counseling
Although marriages require a lot of work and commitment, you really can reap what you sow. To sustain a healthy and happy marriage, you need to avoid some of the typical relationship pitfalls.
To learn more about how to deal with different dynamics in your relationship, contact Lindsey Hoskins & Associates for help through face-to-face therapy sessions with a qualified therapist. To get started now, give us a call to schedule an appointment or schedule an appointment online.
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We invite you to meet with one of our therapists who might be the best couples counselor for you and your partner. We will be happy to explain all of the therapy sessions that we offer clients. If you would like to find out more about the couples counseling genetics and other issues we offer, give our office a call today for an appointment.