Blog Archives - Lindsey Hoskins & Associates

What Makes Long Relationships Successful?

Long term relationships fascinate me. How people stay together for a long time is a mystery to many. This week one of my good childhood friends posted that she has been dating her husband now for 33 years. My husband … Continue reading...

Vulnerable Emotions: The Key to Compassionate Disagreement

in Blog 20 days ago 45 0 0

Whenever one of my clients tells me they feel angry—or, more commonly, acts out anger by raising their voice, using a harsh tone, speaking fast, talking over their partner, rolling their eyes, criticizing, accusing, name-calling—I always ask the...

Is It Really Your Toxic Trait or a Negative Core Belief?

in Blog June 23, 2021 77 0 0

It’s easy to sum up our negative traits as toxic and irreparable. The most common behavioral signs of a toxic person are blaming, passive aggression, criticism, negativity, and emotional blackmail— quite the combo pack. All of these...

Building Your Beach House: A Series on Building a Strong and Intimate Partnership

in Blog June 16, 2021 106 0 0

Picture yourself and your partner washed ashore on a beautiful island, with blue skies and pristine water as far as the eye can see. When you look around, you notice old palm branches and dried seaweed strewn about in the … Continue...

Always the Tortoise, Never the Hare

in Blog May 27, 2021 205 0 0

Over a year ago I published Grieving Life as it Used to Be as a way to understand our shared emotional experience of COVID-19. Today, as more of us are becoming vaccinated and restrictions are being lifted, rather than feeling … Continue...

Is three a crowd? Threesome considerations

in Blog May 10, 2021 273 0 0

Being a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have the privilege of seeing a diverse range of clients with a wide array of partnership values. One common task in couple therapy is defining what a healthy sexual relationship looks like. For &hellip...

The Art of Ending – Growing Through Loss

in Blog April 21, 2021 373 0 0

“Great is the art of the beginning, but greater is the art of ending. —HENRY WADSWORTH LONGFELLOW” I still don’t know what was it that broke our friendship down. Was it the differences between our opinions or the similarities between &hellip...

Are You Really Listening…?

in Blog April 8, 2021 432 0 0

Conversations can turn into arguments in the blink of an eye. In a social media plagued society, the level of closeness in relationships are often blurred due to the instant way we can “like” and “comment” on someone’s life and … Continue...

The Aftermath: An Unexpected Opportunity for Connection

in Blog March 17, 2021 430 0 0

Have you ever been in a situation where a really big emotion overtook you? A time where you became really angry or anxious and just couldn’t think straight? There are times in life when we get triggered by situations and … Continue reading...

In Search of Empowerment

in Blog February 10, 2021 602 0 0

For some, individuals spend time in therapy expressing the feeling of having no control over their life. When this pattern emerges, I see my role in the therapeutic process as exploring how the client identifies and would like to experience...

Adjusting the Judging

in Blog January 25, 2021 619 0 0

Over the course of the last few months, I have noticed more and more of my clients have begun addressing their needs regarding managing their insecurities. These insecurities can stem from childhood, traumatic experiences, or relational...

Please Disagree With Me

in Blog January 13, 2021 680 0 3

I am familiar with unhealthy fighting through my 20 years as a family and couples therapist. This week, tempers rose and most of us watched in disbelief as the Capitol building was breached. Political violence is often a result of &hellip...